04-16-2011, 08:11 PM
I wasn't so much surprised as just happy I hadn't offended anyone and that my poem was considered tasteful. Because I don't know a great deal about "what lesbians do" I felt I was blundering in the dark somewhat. I decided to avoid bringing up sex toys and what not in case it became cheap, misinformed pornography.
Though I derive no sexual thrills from witnessing two women make love, I don't mind seeing it on screen or reading about it in a book, so long as it's tastefully done and relevant to the narrative. Then again, I probably felt the same way you do about the prospect of seeing Brokeback Mountain when I watched Tipping the Velvet, which featured a scene where a woman strapped on a wooden phallus and graphically pleasured her lover. There were times when I closed my eyes and took a deep breath.
A lesbian (or heterosexual, for that matter) couple kissing or holding hands, however, doesn't affect me at all. That's kind of why I decided to make "Dirty Weekend" about lesbians. Because the simple fact of a lesbian relationship doesn't repulse or arouse me, so I could look at it completely objectively.
Though I understand your reservations, I'd still suggest keeping an open mind about Brokeback Mountain, as it isn't just about homosexuality but dreams and repression in general; the gay romance is a metaphor. I can't really judge how you'll feel regarding the sex scenes, because I can't inhabit your POV to a great enough degree, but there's no full frontal nakedness and the lovemaking is more implied than physically seen.
Though I derive no sexual thrills from witnessing two women make love, I don't mind seeing it on screen or reading about it in a book, so long as it's tastefully done and relevant to the narrative. Then again, I probably felt the same way you do about the prospect of seeing Brokeback Mountain when I watched Tipping the Velvet, which featured a scene where a woman strapped on a wooden phallus and graphically pleasured her lover. There were times when I closed my eyes and took a deep breath.
A lesbian (or heterosexual, for that matter) couple kissing or holding hands, however, doesn't affect me at all. That's kind of why I decided to make "Dirty Weekend" about lesbians. Because the simple fact of a lesbian relationship doesn't repulse or arouse me, so I could look at it completely objectively.
Though I understand your reservations, I'd still suggest keeping an open mind about Brokeback Mountain, as it isn't just about homosexuality but dreams and repression in general; the gay romance is a metaphor. I can't really judge how you'll feel regarding the sex scenes, because I can't inhabit your POV to a great enough degree, but there's no full frontal nakedness and the lovemaking is more implied than physically seen.
"We believe that we invent symbols. The truth is that they invent us; we are their creatures, shaped by their hard, defining edges." - Gene Wolfe