04-17-2016, 03:20 PM
Dear Dorothy Dix
My husband has a fetish for rubber.
He says it enhances his enjoyment of sex
in the same way my vibrator enhances
my sexual pleasure. I'm not enthusiastic
about wearing rubber but once in a while
I indulge him. Recently he contacted
a rubber society. He spends evenings there.
They have dinner and nothing goes on
apart from wearing conventional clothes
made of latex. I'm unhappy about this –
what should I do?
Let your husband enjoy his fetish.
Since you don't like wearing latex
it makes sense that he fulfils that fantasy
in a club. However, it's important to reach
agreement about his club activities in your lives.
Negotiate frequency of attendance, and which
sexual behaviours are acceptable. In some fetish clubs
there are events where sexual expression ranges
from public masturbation to group sex. I'm not
suggesting that your husband is deceiving you
but new club members aren't always aware of
the erotic potential, or the opportunity for
networking. Fetish clubs provide support
and information for members, as well as
fun opportunities for "play". Go along, and learn
more about who, in the erotic sense,
your husband really is.
A found poem from a Pamela Stephenson Connolly column about Sexual Healing.
My husband has a fetish for rubber.
He says it enhances his enjoyment of sex
in the same way my vibrator enhances
my sexual pleasure. I'm not enthusiastic
about wearing rubber but once in a while
I indulge him. Recently he contacted
a rubber society. He spends evenings there.
They have dinner and nothing goes on
apart from wearing conventional clothes
made of latex. I'm unhappy about this –
what should I do?
Let your husband enjoy his fetish.
Since you don't like wearing latex
it makes sense that he fulfils that fantasy
in a club. However, it's important to reach
agreement about his club activities in your lives.
Negotiate frequency of attendance, and which
sexual behaviours are acceptable. In some fetish clubs
there are events where sexual expression ranges
from public masturbation to group sex. I'm not
suggesting that your husband is deceiving you
but new club members aren't always aware of
the erotic potential, or the opportunity for
networking. Fetish clubs provide support
and information for members, as well as
fun opportunities for "play". Go along, and learn
more about who, in the erotic sense,
your husband really is.
A found poem from a Pamela Stephenson Connolly column about Sexual Healing.