04-19-2013, 09:08 PM
if you havent already, I suggest reading Sartre's 'being and nothingness' especially part III 3 I & II. "who would be satisfied with the words 'i love you because i have freely engaged myself to love you and because i do not wish to go back on my word'. thus the lover demands a pledge, yet is irritated by a pledge. he wants to be loved by a freedom but demands that this freedom as freedom should no longer be free...' the reason one feels so awful when cheated on has little to do with the Other and all to do with the mOther - the self. One is displaced in the world and acutely recognises oneself as an object, to the point of despair. We do not own people, but the little capitalist in all of us stings like a bitch. Not only do we want 'things' but we want things that want us: people.