I just got a call....
#1
....from my mom. My grandmother is still with us, but sedated. If she wakes, I'd like a chance to talk to her before she passes.

How does one go about choosing the last words they speak to someone? Aren't poets supposed to be good with these things?
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#2
No, that's why we write and don't speak... I can't even begin to offer advice. My guess is, your grandmother already knows you love her but it never hurts to say it again, with a thank you.

My heart goes out to you, Lizzie.
It could be worse
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#3
I am deeply sorry Lizzy.   Sad   The most important words are always "I love you."
The Soufflé isn’t the soufflé; the soufflé is the recipe. --Clara 
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#4
Tell her you love her, thank her for being in your life, reassure her that it's OK to let go now.
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#5
My condolences..

I felt it best to put this in spoilers as it's an emotional time and I don't want to offend...

I'd open with a line about how you always loved her house and how much you think it would be a great place to live....

I don't know. There isn't much to say to a dead person.... They know they're dead, you know they're dead. It just hasn't happened yet... A hug and a goodbye is all you get... Followed by a long awkward pause. You sit there long enough waiting for her to take her last struggled breath... you ends up wishing she'd just die already so you can escape the pain of nurses bursting through your last moments of silence to change a bed pan. Just as you begin to let that thought creep into your head she takes her last breath, leaving you feeling guilty.

Death beds aren't for me.
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#6
I'm very sorry Lizzie. If you get to say something simple is better. Telling her that you love her and what she means to you will be enough. The fact that you're there next to her will speak volumes. Again, it's very hard.
The secret of poetry is cruelty.--Jon Anderson
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#7
hold a hand speaks volumes. other than that no ideas here.
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#8
Sad Thinking of you Lizzie, don,t worry you'll find the words

If your undies fer you've been smoking through em, don't peg em out
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#9
Thanks everybody, for your kindness and support. We're still in a holding pattern -- she's not stable and not gone. We shall see.
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